Closure to Start Healing from Loved One’s Death

Closure is a way of closing the chapter on a part of your life.  It can be the ending of a relationship, the grieving of a loved one who has passed away, or an end to a career. Many people need this to happen in order to move on with their lives. If they don’t have some sense of closure, they are never fully ever to move on. Yesterday was a huge step in accepting my sister’s death.  My parents, older sister, and I finally got almost all the answers to the why, where, when, who, what, and how of Kristine’s passing.  Why she was binge drinking to the point that she passed away from acute alcohol poisoning.  Where it happened. When she was found. Who helped cause her to get to that point. What were the events leading to her passing. How it happened.

It seemed it was something that maybe Kristine wanted to happen as it fell on when it would have been her 30th birthday. All of us cried together, and then we smiled thinking of some of the memories we shared of our Kristine.  I sometimes feel as though she is still with me. I look at her pictures, and a feeling passes through me that I could pick up the phone, text, or IM, and she will be there to answer. I do believe that she is somewhere in peace and no longer having to endure any more pain.  I want to celebrate her life, and not relive her death. At least, we were able to have her in our lives and had the privilege to have known her.